Sometimes, stress and pregnancy seem to fit together like a hand and glove. This isn't true of all women, of course. Some just let troubles roll off their back, like the proverbial duck with water. If you've been so blessed, good for you; pregnancy is likely just one area of life in which you find things easier.
Others of us, though, are not so blessed. We have to wrestle with our darker thoughts, doubts and fears. These take the form of recurring questions for a pregnant woman. She wonders if her baby will be healthy. Is she eating properly? Is her sleep and exercise doing well for the baby? If she is a first time mom, naturally, she will often be grappling with her anxieties about whether she'll be a good mother.
Look, the tendency in some circles to treat stress as a great evil is silly. Stress plays a big role in helping us create, achieve and meet responsibilities.
However, excessive, chronic stress is another matter. And, without doubt, the worst - because least productive - kind of stress is stress about being stressed. And, since excessive, chronic stress in pregnancy can lead to problems for the baby, stressing about stress in pregnancy is understandable and common.
The worst and most pointless stress is indeed stress about being stressed. Don't create a downward spiral for yourself.
Whenever an awareness of stressing over stress comes apparent to you, preventative action is prescribed. When you find yourself in that situation, there are two strategies I'd suggest you try: communicating and taking inventory.
Communication is of course important in most things. It has particularly therapeutic benefits in pregnancy. To begin with, it is important to talk about your concerns with your partner. I'm well aware that your pregnancy stress could have in fact a lot to do with your partner: particularly worrying over his feelings and reactions.
Even if you feel that way about him, communicating is still the best policy. You could be surprised how relieved he might feel to have an opportunity to talk about it and feel less alone once you share your own unease. All the life changes of pregnancy are a lot for either of you to go through alone. And, even if he is totally fine with everything, the benefits to you are still immense. Just being able to express your doubts or fears can provide an amazing elixir.
Not only is there comfort in knowing you're going through this together, but it is often surprising to discover how quickly bad thoughts dispel into nothing once finally stated: like germs exposed to fresh air and sunshine. Letting the bad stuff fester is never healthy.
Friends are also valuable outlets for your communication needs. They don't even necessarily have to be mothers themselves. Your real friends are your friends because they're going to be there for you, whatever happens. Like a rock climber who gives some solid tugs on a line before lowering the full weight of her body onto it, just the occasional, reassuring touching base with your support network goes a long way to comfort you that you're not undertaking this great adventure alone.
The other strategy is to take inventory. If you're worried you're not eating enough or the right food. Not exercising enough. Whatever. Don't stew in self doubt.
My dear, you are after all living in the most remarkable age of knowledge access in the history of the world. You know, that little old Internet thing? Use it! A wealth of health information, from the most credible scientific medical and maternal care professionals, is available at your finger tips. So, if you start feeling yourself begin to stress out, about your dietary or other decisions, stop fretting and start researching. When you have doubts about what to do; find out what to do.
If you're not doing it, then do it. Though, I suspect, the overwhelming majority of time, you'll discover what you've been doing is perfectly fine. Knowledge is your friend; let it put you at ease.
However, it is true, that for some women, none of this solves the problem. If that's you, well, then, maybe you're just a worrier by disposition. Hey, some of us are wired that way; what's to be done? Well, that's still no reason to descend into a spiral of stressing over stress. There are many exercises you can undertake that have been time tested remedies to psychological stress, through the reduction of physical stress. Top of the list to start would be yoga, deep-breathing, meditation, massage, and warm baths. These things work!
Also, be sure to take plenty of you-time, to relax. Take advantage of sick days, if you're working out of the home. Put your feet up and let others take over the responsibilities.
Stress only becomes a serious problem when we let it. Cut it off at the pass when you sense it arising and never allow yourself to dwell pointlessly upon negative thoughts. Instead, fill your mind with the peaceful anticipation of how wonderful your new baby is going to be. I hope that the suggestions above go a long way in helping you do so, and contribute to resolving your stress and pregnancy concerns.
Others of us, though, are not so blessed. We have to wrestle with our darker thoughts, doubts and fears. These take the form of recurring questions for a pregnant woman. She wonders if her baby will be healthy. Is she eating properly? Is her sleep and exercise doing well for the baby? If she is a first time mom, naturally, she will often be grappling with her anxieties about whether she'll be a good mother.
Look, the tendency in some circles to treat stress as a great evil is silly. Stress plays a big role in helping us create, achieve and meet responsibilities.
However, excessive, chronic stress is another matter. And, without doubt, the worst - because least productive - kind of stress is stress about being stressed. And, since excessive, chronic stress in pregnancy can lead to problems for the baby, stressing about stress in pregnancy is understandable and common.
The worst and most pointless stress is indeed stress about being stressed. Don't create a downward spiral for yourself.
Whenever an awareness of stressing over stress comes apparent to you, preventative action is prescribed. When you find yourself in that situation, there are two strategies I'd suggest you try: communicating and taking inventory.
Communication is of course important in most things. It has particularly therapeutic benefits in pregnancy. To begin with, it is important to talk about your concerns with your partner. I'm well aware that your pregnancy stress could have in fact a lot to do with your partner: particularly worrying over his feelings and reactions.
Even if you feel that way about him, communicating is still the best policy. You could be surprised how relieved he might feel to have an opportunity to talk about it and feel less alone once you share your own unease. All the life changes of pregnancy are a lot for either of you to go through alone. And, even if he is totally fine with everything, the benefits to you are still immense. Just being able to express your doubts or fears can provide an amazing elixir.
Not only is there comfort in knowing you're going through this together, but it is often surprising to discover how quickly bad thoughts dispel into nothing once finally stated: like germs exposed to fresh air and sunshine. Letting the bad stuff fester is never healthy.
Friends are also valuable outlets for your communication needs. They don't even necessarily have to be mothers themselves. Your real friends are your friends because they're going to be there for you, whatever happens. Like a rock climber who gives some solid tugs on a line before lowering the full weight of her body onto it, just the occasional, reassuring touching base with your support network goes a long way to comfort you that you're not undertaking this great adventure alone.
The other strategy is to take inventory. If you're worried you're not eating enough or the right food. Not exercising enough. Whatever. Don't stew in self doubt.
My dear, you are after all living in the most remarkable age of knowledge access in the history of the world. You know, that little old Internet thing? Use it! A wealth of health information, from the most credible scientific medical and maternal care professionals, is available at your finger tips. So, if you start feeling yourself begin to stress out, about your dietary or other decisions, stop fretting and start researching. When you have doubts about what to do; find out what to do.
If you're not doing it, then do it. Though, I suspect, the overwhelming majority of time, you'll discover what you've been doing is perfectly fine. Knowledge is your friend; let it put you at ease.
However, it is true, that for some women, none of this solves the problem. If that's you, well, then, maybe you're just a worrier by disposition. Hey, some of us are wired that way; what's to be done? Well, that's still no reason to descend into a spiral of stressing over stress. There are many exercises you can undertake that have been time tested remedies to psychological stress, through the reduction of physical stress. Top of the list to start would be yoga, deep-breathing, meditation, massage, and warm baths. These things work!
Also, be sure to take plenty of you-time, to relax. Take advantage of sick days, if you're working out of the home. Put your feet up and let others take over the responsibilities.
Stress only becomes a serious problem when we let it. Cut it off at the pass when you sense it arising and never allow yourself to dwell pointlessly upon negative thoughts. Instead, fill your mind with the peaceful anticipation of how wonderful your new baby is going to be. I hope that the suggestions above go a long way in helping you do so, and contribute to resolving your stress and pregnancy concerns.
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